It’s rare for couples to have perfect relationships. More often, life partners have to overcome difficulties, solve conflict situations, and find a way out of the crisis. Therefore, we look for support from friends and parents, resort to the help of family psychologists, but there is another faithful assistant — a book. Here and now, we’ve prepared for you a selection of books about relationships. Read books on building a relationship and how to keep contact between a man and a woman.
“Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus” by John Gray
This first book by an American writer and expert in family relationships —John Gray — was published in 1993. For all these years, it has ranked among the most popular books on the psychology of relationships. Everyone knows how different men and women are by nature, and John Gray explains exactly where we’re different and how to overcome these differences. Most conflicts in relationships arise from misunderstanding, as partners try to explain something to each other as if they were explaining it to themselves, which is the wrong approach. This bestseller is written in a lively language and consists of a bunch of real-life examples.
“How to Live as a Couple and Stay Free” by Tina Tessina and Riley Smith
This book by renowned American psychotherapists is a kind of manual on conflictology. Having read this handbook, you’ll learn how to keep the person around, keep the relationship from cheating and betrayal, and, most importantly, self-affirmation in the relationship. Tina Tessina and Riley Smith prove that healthy relationships are those in which both partners love each other, but at the same time, stay free people, and any conflict situations can be solved without blackmail, but by peaceful agreement. As idealistic as the slogan “freedom in relationships” may sound, the authors describe specific behavioral strategies in which this slogan can become a reality.
“The Five Love Languages: How to Express Love to Your Companion” by Gary Chapman
The book is a peculiar study of the author, in which he reveals to the reader five ways to give your love to your sweetheart and share warm feelings with him/her. Gary Chapman gives sound advice that lovers should listen not only to their own hearts but also try to understand and hear their partner. Only then, your beloved ones will be able to feel your love messages, and you will get rid of feelings of callousness. By the way, your partner may think the same about you.
“She Doesn’t Explain, He Doesn’t Guess. The Japanese Art of Dialogue Without Fighting” by Tatsunari Iota
A man and a woman are two opposing personalities that cannot live without each other. He wants to live freely, but she wants to get married; he is guided by common sense; she is all emotion; he loves silence, she cannot stand it; he is quick to forget offenses, she has a phenomenal memory for it. With the main sources of conflict (and there are 36 of them in the book), the author tries to show how important it’s in a relationship to understand your partner and support him/her in every way.
“Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love” by Sue Johnson
When love and intimacy are replaced by dissatisfaction and quarrels, both partners suffer. Emotion-focused therapy will allow everyone to unravel the tangle of emotions and restore trust and intimacy. Sue Johnson presents the principles of her developed methodology in a popular way, and the real-life stories and practical part will help apply them to your own relationships.